My 12 Step Program for Parents Wanting Their Kids to Play College Football | National Signing Day Special
After coaching and spending a lot of time talking to football parents I have become frustrated with the goals of the parents. It is not about a winning team, school pride, or team work. It seems that all the parents I talk to these days thinks their young man is going to be a scholarship player at a big time university. Here are a few steps parents should take to make sure they don’t fall into that “scholarship at all cost” trap.
- Admit that Friday nights really don’t matter in terms of college. It is VERY IMPORTANT for your high school team. Film is very important for college coaches, but stats, wins and losses, size of school and success of the school have absolutely no effect on a young man getting a scholarship.
- Come to believe that genetics is more important than anything. If your son plays linebacker but does not look like any linebackers that play at a Division 1 school, he will not be at a D1 school.
- Make a decision to do what’s best for you and your son. A scholarship, just because it sounds great and you can brag about it to your co-workers is not necessarily a blessing. How many games can you watch, how much is it going to cost to get to the games, if it is a partial scholarship, it might cost you more than going to a smaller school.
- Make a fearless and moral inventory of yourself. Regardless of where your son ends up going to school, are they a good person and will they get a degree. Everything else doesn’t really matter in the end.
- Always question if the person you talk to has the best interest of you son in mind.
- Character and effort will end up being the most important traits in the long term success of your son rather than talent.
- Make sure your son is humble. The recruiting process makes them feel like kings for a day but can quickly turn if a school moves on to the next guy.
- Thank your son’s teammates for his success.
- Trust that your coach is doing what is best for everyone on the team.
- Take inventory of yourself. Is it more important to you or your son that they receive a scholarship. If it is more important for you, reevaluate.
- Ask for advice and listen. You are not the only one to go through this.
- Keep a perspective on things that are important in your life and model them for your son. Your life is not his.